Kids at weddings... Yay or nay?
When Pete and I got engaged and we got onto the wedding chat, the subject about whether children should attend our big day popped up pretty quickly. A lot of our friends have kids and there’s been a few more additions since the proposal so surely they’d love a childfree day or two to let their hair down a bit… right? Is it wrong for me to assume that every other parent fancies a bit of time away from the children?
Having children ourselves we know exactly what it’s like having them at a wedding, party or any kind of public event… Who’s going to change the shitty nappy? Who’s turn is it to chase them around whilst they bulldoze their way through the pub? Who’s going to manage the meltdowns not i(not ncluding mine), and who is going to be the one to take them back to the room for an hour so we can all have a bit of quiet time? You get my drift…
For Pete and I the parenting is equally balanced but ultimately we know that there’s going to be one of us who will draw the short straw, have to leave the party early and sit with them for two hours that evening. Slowly feeling your brain fry as you settle in to the 10th episode of Peppa Pig, your eyes start to close and yep you're now falling asleep before the children. So annoying how that program has that affect on adults but not the kids!
A good handful of our friends avec kids will be travelling some distance to attend the wedding so of course I was anxious about how to approach this conversation without them taking it personally. Where did I begin…? ‘Oh thanks so much for flying over for our wedding and we’d love to see the kids at some point but they’re not actually invited to the wedding…’ Or ‘Are you guys set for childcare over here? We’ve got a few numbers if need them…?’ Or just straight to the point… ‘Kids aren't invited…’
Our friends know that Pete and I are not a beat around the bush kinda couple, we like to get straight to the point but when it comes to the kids you have to handle with care. The last thing we’d ever want to do is offend or upset any of them.
It was actually way easier than we thought, nobody offended, nobody upset.
Turns out that they’re all quite keen to have a couple of days child free so they can relax whilst filling their bellies with amazing food and drink without having their kidlets locked to their ankles.
Obviously, Dylan and Rudy will be there! But that’s different, of course our babies are going to be there. Their bedtimes are already in place (whether or not that’ll stick is another story). Pete’s mum is over the moon at being in charge of taking them to bed, she's Northern, she loves it. Well we didn’t have to ask her to be honest, she offered/insisted! Dylan hates loud music (so Pete’s gigs are always interesting), any form of dancing or fuss being made over him and Rudy will be well and truly exhausted… I hope! Movies and Nanna snugs will be very welcomed by that time which will leave Pete, myself and all of our friends and family to carry on the celebrations way into the night…well let’s say midnight eh.